Asking the right questions for your end-of-life choices
29th September 2015 · 0 Comments
By Paula Spencer Scott
Contributing Writer
(Special from New America Media) – When retired professor, Jeffrey Butler, suffered a stroke at age 79, the prevailing concept of “the best medicine” kicked in to save him. He survived, though unable to complete full sentences. During stroke rehab, he developed a painful intestinal hernia. To qualify for the surgery recommended to repair it, a cardiac exam was ordered. When it showed a slow heartbeat, a pacemaker was urged.
Although Butler had once resisted the device before his stroke, his exhausted wife, Valerie, now deferred to the doctors. The pacemaker was implanted and the hernia was repaired. But the degeneration in his body that had caused his stroke continued.
For six more years, he endured vision impairment, incontinence, brain hemorrhage, dementia, falls, pneumonia—while his pacemaker-powered heart kept beating.
Valerie’s Difficult Choice
The experience changed Valerie profoundly. She made sure to ask many questions when she faced her own health crisis at age 82.
Her cardiologist had told her that open-heart surgery to repair two stiff, leaking heart valves might allow her to live to 90. Without surgery, her odds of dying within two years were 50-50. She probed about the risks of stroke and dementia. She weighed losing what gave her life meaning and joy, like gardening, against a shot at extra time.
Then Valerie declined the surgery.
Instead, she spent the next five months with her grown children. She planned what should happen to her prized Swiss sewing machine. She updated her will. Her cardiologist continued to press for stents and bypass surgery, and she continued to resist. Palliative care and then hospice care managed her pain. And she slept in her own bed until the night before she died, lucid and conscious to the end.
“My mother saw my father suffer too long and unnecessarily because of medical treatments that were focused on extending life, not maximizing quality of life and happiness,” says Jeffrey and Valerie’s daughter, Katy Butler, who contrasted their stories in her bestseller, Knocking on Heaven’s Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death (Scribner, 2013).
“She died the death she chose, not the death anyone else had in mind,” Butler said.
More Time? Better Time?
Studies show that most people prefer Valerie Butler’s path at the end of life. They want to be in control, free of pain, retain their dignity, and achieve closure while surrounded by family rather than machines. They prize wellbeing over simply being. Surveys of doctors show that they, too, would rather die at home than the way most of their patients do—receiving aggressive treatment to the end.
In a study published in the Canadian Medical Association Journal (November 2014), seriously ill hospitalized patients and their families identified the most important topics they wished to discuss with doctors. Topping the list: patient values, prognosis and fears or concerns. Yet most reported that such dialogues never happened.
“Doctors often say, ‘We have a lot of arrows in the quiver’—it’s like a code for ‘We will try treatment after treatment,’” Butler says. “What patients want to hear is, ‘We will take care of you until the end of your life. We want to discuss how you want to maximize your time at home, keep you comfortable, and address your fears.’”
But here’s the problem: Neither side brings it up.
When well informed, patients with advanced illness and their families tend to choose less care, in less institutional settings, they often have improved quality of life, found the GSA report. In-depth discussions can also lead to more use of beneficial palliative and hospice care, it noted.
A 2014 Institute of Medicine report urged Medicare reimbursement to health care providers for conversations about advance care planning, which some insurers already do. Such talks aren’t the same as the also-important arrangement of advance directives, such as living wills (which Jeffrey and Valerie Butler had).
Conversations Important As Paper Directives
“Paper directives are often only as useful as the conversations around them,” says Mickey McIntyre, chief program officer of Compassion & Choices, an advocacy group that helps families manage end-of-life preferences. “What makes them good is how prepared people are to talk to providers in a way they can hear to get the quality of life they want.”
Compassion & Choices is one of several groups designing ways to help people frame these conversations. A new interactive English- and Spanish-language website called PrepareForYourCare.org, for example, uses geriatrician-created videos to help users decide what matters in life, tell others, and ask doctors effective questions. More than 20 diverse aging and caregiving groups have formed the Campaign to End Unwanted Medical Treatment.
“A lot of people go in to health care settings not thinking logically because it’s an emotional time. Providers are trained to be logical,” said McIntyre. These approaches collide when the provider—due to training and the medical system itself—is focused on curing and extending life at all costs, but the patient lacks the full context, including risks, side effects, life impact, and prognosis.
“Research shows that patients tend to be more likely than their doctors to reject aggressive treatments, once they’ve been informed of the pros, cons, and alternatives,” said author Katy Butler. Doctors, meanwhile, tend to widely overestimate survival and future quality of life, research by Harvard’s Nicholas Christakis and other shows.
Looking back, Katy Butler wishes she and her family realized that when her father had his stroke, they’d entered “a gray zone, where the emphasis shifted from curing to caring, where all the questions that needed to be asked of medical care had shifted.”
Her mother, in contrast, acknowledged and even embraced the gray. “I learned there’s a great opportunity in knowing your days are numbered,” Butler said. “She was able to settle her emotional and practical affairs in a way that was meaningful for her. She was able to give us that gift.”
Paula Spencer Scott wrote a slightly longer version of this article for Touching Lives, supported by a Journalists in Aging Fellowship, a collaboration of New America Media and the Gerontological Society of America, sponsored by the Silver Century Foundation. She is the author of Surviving Alzheimer’s: Practical Tips and Soul-Saving Wisdom for Caregivers (Eva-Birch Media, 2014).
This article originally published in the September 28, 2015 print edition of The Louisiana Weekly newspaper.
